Saying NO need not be viewed always as a negative in life. Once you know what serves you best and realising when saying NO can actually be of benefit to you and also be life affirming.
Saying NO usually results in saying yes to something else. As we all have limited time to do all the things we aim to do, by saying NO to one thing it can mean something else of greater importance is being dealt with.
Saying NO can mean that you need to gently refuse to fulfil another’s current request. However, by letting them know you cannot attend to their request immediately but at the same time offering an alternative.
Before saying NO you can suggest, that you need some time to consider their request and you will revert to them. Do not feel compelled to say yes to every request. You must make others aware of your “space” and although you are still there for them, it will be in your own time. This process commands greater respect than saying yes against your best instincts. This can lead to unease and resentment. You must do what serves you best in a given situation. This can be the hardest solution in the moment but long term it is the best.
For me as a coach, I try to show my clients that it is less about trying to satisfy everybody else but more about living according to your own values.
Are you finding it a challenge to say NO to others? Do not hesitate to call me for a consultation on developing a strategy around saying NO.
As a Professional Life Coach and Author of “Charting Your Life’s Roadmap in an Uncertain World” – Choose Happiness Daily, my Life Coaching practice evolved from a passion for positivity in my own and other people’s lives.